In The Heat Of The Night
In The Heat Of The Night
A discussion on change and destructive coping mechanisms.
I was lying awake (like I do many nights) and thinking about the different aspects of life that have changed in under a year. Change is one of the most uncomfortable aspects of life, even if it is for the better. Why is that? Usually, it is because there is an element of the unknown involved, which can be taxing on anyone’s mental state. Stress typically increases, sometimes disconnection from others occurs, and sometimes refusal of reality happens. Typically, it is the coping mechanisms to change that end up causing the most damage.
Often, we bring a lot of the pain on ourselves, in whatever form it may take. With the loss of a relationship, people may go on a bender, or develop a habit of one-night stands. The psychology behind the choice may go a bit deeper than what is a clear intention. For some, it is to exploit and discover a sympathetic reaction; while for others, it is more about losing grasp of their current reality.
What can we be done to curb the destructive tendencies that we so often feel pulled toward? It begins with recognizing how we handle stress and change. Once you learn what paths you typically go down, you can start to find healthier alternatives to stop yourself before pushing too far.
Is it important? As a creator, it is vital. Too many creators apply pressure to themselves, and then find a coping mechanism that destroys them, or takes them out of a creative path. Being able to identify these shortcomings is essential to being able to grow from change, rather than cave in. Change is a part of life, and while some changes are large, even small ones can throw a wrench in any given person's day. I encourage each and every person that is reading this to sit down and recognize your usual reaction to change, both good and bad.
As these articles continue, I will begin discussing more psychology-driven topics, but will always attempt to relate them back to the creative mindset.